When people go into marriage they honestly don’t see the end at that time. But with the number of wonderful love stories ending these days, one cannot help but ponder on the causes of these separations.
The reasons couples divorce these days are common. People in marriages do very little or nothing to fight for their marriages these days, some with the slightest of argument file for divorce and effort to settle the argument most times proved abortive.
So let’s see some of these causes of divorce in Nigeria:
6 REASONS COUPLES DIVORCE IN NIGERIA
Selfishness is a major problem in many relationships. When one spouse always want it all forgetting that the other partner also deserves same treatment he is just courting problem in his household and very soon the world sees it. When the other partner starts feeling not cared for, the thought of finding care elsewhere starts coming and that is the beginning of the end of the relationship if something is not done fast.
A starved partner can look outside for satisfaction and things can get really bad from there.
Adultery, without it so many marriages would still be alive today. So many spouses can endure the other threat to their marriages but not infidelity. The idea of his/her partner having an affair with another person outside their home never sits well with any partner.
This is also another common cause of divorce in our society today, as partners (especially the male) are fond of physically assaulting their partners. This happens when one partner cannot control his/her anger and has no respect for his/her partner. As surprising as it is, so many partners still endures this just for their marriages to continue but most times it always result in divorce.
LACK OF COMMUNICATION:
Do not think that lack of communication can only become a problem in long distance relationships even when the partners are close it can still become a problem as couples just go on with their daily activities without involving the other partner, they make decisions on their own without carrying the other partner along. At some point the other partner can start feeling not needed and may decide to check elsewhere to get the attention.
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LACK OF INTIMACY:
I don’t think any person can honestly endure not going intimate with his/her partner for long. Because intimacy plays a vital role in keeping couples together and making things interesting . A starved partner can look outside for satisfaction and things can get really bad from there.
THIRD PARTIES INTERFERENCE:
A marriage that has not learnt to solve their problems on their own will eventually be damaged by people’s advice . Because not all advisers mean well for your marriage. There is no marriage without issues so don’t go acting like yours is different but rather, the couples should be determined to fight for their marriages .