“I don’t love him anymore”. This is a statement that leads many people to some point in their relationship that looks more like rejection, which makes us feel like something is wrong, or that the relationship is over.
Hearing your partner say this statement is really painful, although this statement doesn’t necessarily mean something is wrong. No matter how real it seems when spoken, it can actually be a way of saying “this is too hard, I can’t do it anymore”.
“I don’t love you anymore”, can also mean “I shut down in my heart”. That such person can’t feel love at all again, & not even for only you. Although, rarely do we find that love has died completely. It’s often just buried under the hurt and pain we’re burnt into, and needs just excavation.
Anyway, perhaps you’re in this kind of dilemma, this post would carefully explain what and what to do.
Below are Five (5) various things to do when your partners says he/she doesn’t love you any longer.
1) UNDERSTAND REJECTION
It’s sincerely really hard to understand someone rejecting you romantically.
Although even the very best suffered rejection at some point – watch the movie Casanova starring Heath Ledger and Sienna Miller to get an understanding, not only for the ones interested in Giacomo Casanova, but also for the title character
The good news is that sometimes rejection is not always permanent or it is a case of one door closing and another (better one!) opening.
2) REACT WELL
We know that it is hard to swallow. You give the rejection so much power that it becomes a part of you, thus eating away at your happiness.
But, why don’t you brace up, instead of rubbing salt on your own wounds & whine about it. Sometimes you need to act keen as the mustard in order to survive life’s tides.
Do not overreact.
Although this seems non feasible, but one of the major ways to objectively view a lack of reciprocated love is to learn extensively from it.
Look at how you were acting around your person of interest earlier on which might have prompted you to What would you have done differently? How can this painful experience help you grow? Remaining calm and doing this will help you in the future so that you will either be happy or be in a better place if another rejection is forthcoming.
4. LIVE YOUR LIFE
Walt Disney had no imagination that the Beatles would never make it in music, Albert Einstein would never amount to much… We have all seen the meme.
Know this; rejection is a part of life and it will happen from time to time. It’s constant. It is up to you to keep searching within you, to never be discouraged from living your life to the fullest. Keep going; there is always someone who will appreciate you.
Live your life the way you’ve been before you met this partner. Enjoy yourself.
5. ACCEPT YOURSELF.
Most people look externally for this. Thankfully, the only person from whom you need acceptance is yourself. This will always overcome the pain of romantic rejection and fear thereof.
Remember that self-love has a certain magnetic power attached to it like the magnet. Take a leaf out of Whitney Houston’s book as she sings Greatest Love of All. “Because the greatest love of all is happening to me. I found the greatest love of all inside of me. The greatest love of all is easy to achieve. Learning to love yourself, It is the greatest love of all.”
Imagine a beautiful flower in a garden and a child rips the flower off its stem, the part that has been ripped off eventually dies and the child is long gone, yet the stem does the only thing it knows how: grow another beautiful flower. It achieves that feat thanks to its roots. In this scenario, you are the stem, the child portrays the one who rejected you, and the flower is the love that you have for someone.
There is one thing for sure: there is absolutely no rejection here. We love you, no matter what!
It is only natural to feel sad after rejection. According to relationship expert, prior said; “I have seen men and women reject the most beautiful/thoughtful/ partners.” You were the one who invested in this crush on him/her. This will turn into emotional distress because you are wallowing in self-pity. Self-pity translates into feelings of being inadequate for this crush and possibly those in future, therefore your inadequacy makes you angry and out to get revenge. What do you do when wanting to exact revenge on someone with whom you are angry in a romantic sense? You will get dressed to the nines in search of someone else by wanting to attract someone new.
We all know the end goal is moving on and feeling better about yourself.